Do everything possible on your part to live in peace with everybody.
Romans 12:18 GNT
In this world, Elwood, you must be oh so smart or oh so pleasant. Well, for years I was smart. I recommend pleasant. You may quote me.
From the Play “Harvey”
As we prepare for Thanksgiving and other holiday gatherings, I think about the many movies that work off the premise of awkward family gatherings where people getting along is a comedy or drama. The expectation at gatherings sometimes seems to be that all family members must think alike politically or in terms of faith ideals or even ways of life. Yet I’m reminded that though vinegar and oil do not create a single mixture, they do combine very well to make a delicious dressing for a salad. Families too are made of unique members with many differences, yet we all have the choice to focus on what we have in common and be positive in conversation to bring out the best in each other.
Family gatherings are an opportunity to lovingly celebrate lives joined by shared history and commonalities but are NOT the time to forcefully try to impose personal convictions on family members. Not everyone is on the same page with ideals, but we can choose to be positive and to each take personal responsibility for ourselves and our actions and reactions. Be positive in speech and behavior. Try to gently redirect potentially contentious or negative conversations. Plan ways to help each person relax and live out kindness. Expect that there will sometimes be emotional bumps but avoid reacting in anger; be forgiving. See the best in each person and show interest in others, asking about their lives even as you share about your life.
Family are gifts while being loving is a choice. The laughter, conversation, photos, and memories will live on long after the gathering is past and the leftovers are consumed!
Oh, and don’t forget to help the cooks or hosts! That will warm hearts big time!
